1. We fight.

   rarely

   sometimes

   often

   very often

2. We name call

   rarely

   sometimes

   often

   very often

3. Things get out of control when we argue. (One of us gets nasty or abusive.)

   rarely

   sometimes

   often

   very often

4. There are bad feelings for a long time afterward.

   rarely

   sometimes

   often

   very often

5. Past issues from your current relationship come up during disagreements.

   rarely

   sometimes

   often

   very often

6. There's frustration even before we deal with problems.

   rarely

   sometimes

   often

   very often

7. We forget what we're fighting about but continue to fight.

   rarely

   sometimes

   often

   very often

8. One of us must win.

   rarely

   sometimes

   often

   very often

9. We place blame.

   rarely

   sometimes

   often

   very often

10. Neither of us listens to the other.

   rarely

   sometimes

   often

   very often