Dear Positive Way, I’ve been dating a 47 yr old man for 4 months who has been divorced for about 10 months. I have full custody of my eight yr old. I am 42, having dated in 2 yrs and have been divorced for 3 yrs. I work full-time (high-stress) run a home, school work etc. He is practically living at my house, which I’ve stated I don’t want in front of my son and he wants to have sex at least 2 times everyday or at least daily. If I say I’m a little tired, he gets angry. We have been having sex at least 8 times a week and it’s never enough. He tells me that I’m not normal. I’m above average in looks and economically in the upper class— I’ve never had this said to me by anyone or had someone demand sex from me. He says if I don’t he’ll leave me??? I’ll give him a quick peck on the lips and he’ll say that’s not how he wants it, he wants a passionate kiss? He wants to be part of the Mile High club? My friends all say lose him- he’s demanding, controlling and your just starting. Am I looking at this all wrong? My older brother told me to by him a blow-up doll. Please help- it’s making me question my own sexuality? signed, Serje01 age 42
Dear Serje01, there is nothing wrong with you but there is something off with the man you are dating. Let this man go. Things will only get worse over time. He is showing you signs of emotional abuse that could lead to physical abuse. Let him go and protect yourself and your children. Sex does not equal love at all. This man is only into sex and in my opinion does not have the ability or desire to sustain a relationship in the long run. You are not the problem in this relationship but he is. Let him go.
There are wonderful men out there that will give you so much more than just sex. They will respect and honor you as a strong and loving woman and they can be a supportive partner and not a demanding one. Keep looking. Please check out our information for single and looking.
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