What qualities make for good relationships

What qualities make for good relationships?

Dear Positive Way, How can I learn to be a good friend or colleague to someone?  What qualities would you say are important to have good relationships with others?  Thanks! signed, Learning, age 43

Dear Learning:  Here is a list of qualities that I feel are important to have good relationships with others: 

  • Dependability – keep your word.  Follow through on your promises. 

  • Honesty – Say what you mean and mean what you say.  Don’t say one thing to their face and then say the opposite behind their back.  Be a straight shooter. 

  • Accept and Support – when needed.  Don’t judge or demean. We all want to be accepted for who we are and not judged in anyway. 

  • Listen attentively – when needed.  Everyone could use a good listener.  Don’t try to fix their problem just listen and empathize as best you can. 

  • Don’t assume anything – No hidden expectations – Don’t smother or expect something in return for your friendship.  Give your friendship without hidden expectations.  If you have any expectations of the other person communicate those early on and don’t think they should know this – don’t assume anything.  

  • Be sincere – Sincerity is key to all good relationships.  Don’t pretend anything.  People will sense insincerity early on and that will ruin any chance of a good relationship.
    Sincerity is defined as: without deceit, pretense, or hypocrisy; truthful; straightforward; honest; genuine; real.

We all could use a friend with these qualities – don’t you agree?

Please understand you have free will.  This advice is given only in the realm of personal growth and self-help. This is not to be considered a substitute for therapy or professional counseling.  We wish you well.