Time to Move on
Dear Positive Way, my boyfriend and I broke up 8 months ago. I moved out 5 months ago. We now live 6 blocks apart in a small town. He still calls me anywhere from 1-7 times a day he says we’re working on the friendship and knows I want the relationship back. Everyone says move on but when I try somehow I get pulled back in. I have quit talking to him I don’t answer all his calls we hardly see each other he got divorced and we moved in together in the town I was known in. He bought the house we were renting and we had fights over the house when we were breaking up. He seems to still care and worry about me and his calls come all day and night but when we’re around each other I get really nervous and upset. No one will talk to me anymore because they think I’m stupid for hanging on and there’s a few guys that tell me just to be patient that he’s working it all out. He is refinancing the house this week and has remodeled it the way we talked about some of my stuff is still in his garage and he keeps telling me not to move it till Nov 1. His best friend and I hate each other and he is still in his life somewhat I was told that maybe some day when he’s ready that he may want me back but he says he doesn’t want anyone in his life right now but he still calls and makes sure I’m there help. Signed momosut age 52.
Dear momosut, to get right to the point, it’s time to move on. Don’t let this person’s indecisiveness run you around in circles any more. Think about yourself and your future.
If you stay, all you will get is more of the fights and conflict you have already had. You deserve better than that.
Move your stuff out of his garage and move your life in a positive direction away from him.
Work on your self-esteem and self development. Read some of the great material on this site at this link.
Please understand you have free will. This advice is given only in the realm of personal growth and self-help. This is not to be considered a substitute for therapy or professional counseling. We wish you well.