Men need to know this about women.
Women fall in love through their ears.
Women fall out of love through their ears.
Many women without even consciously knowing it test their partners to hear what they need to hear to feel loved, needed, and wanted and by their partner.
Test question: Honey do I look fat in this?
Pass answers: Babe you look great in anything. Or Honey you could wear a potato sack and look sexy. Or In my eyes you could be wearing anything and still be the most beautiful women in the world.
Fail answers: Yes. Or I don’t know. Or You have put on some extra weight lately.
Test question: Honey lets go shopping together – It will be fun.
Pass answers: Sweetie I love spending time with you but I hate shopping. You go and have fun and when you get back we will have dinner together.
Fail answers: No, I hate shopping. Or I’ll go but I won’t be happy about it. Or All right with a big sigh and pout.
Test question: Woman comes home from work upset with her boss and starts giving you details.
Pass answers: You stop what you are doing and listen intently. Or You listen and paraphrase what she has said and you empathize and agree with her feelings.
Fail answers: You agree with the boss. Or you say Stop complaining you have it made there. Or That is nothing compared to what I have to put up with. Or You try to fix it instead of just listening.
Test question: You are working on your car or a project of some kind and your woman comes by observing what you are doing and then offers a suggestion.
Pass answers: You stop what you are doing and listen intently. Or You thank her and say that is a good idea, I’ll try it. Or you say Wow – good insight – I will let you know if it works.
Fail answers: Leave me alone, can’t you see I’m busy. Or That will never work. Or You don’t know what you are talking about.
NOTE: Women need to hear from their man on a regular basis that they are still beautiful and loved. They need to hear that their man needs them and wants them in their life. They need to hear that he doesn’t want a life without her.
If you ever do slip up and say something hurtful to the woman in your life you must apologize as soon as possible by saying something like this. Honey I am so sorry for what I said. I did not mean it and was lashing out because I felt hurt. You mean the world to me. I love you and never want to hurt you. Please forgive me. A sincere apology and positive actions that follow that apology goes along way in improving your relationship long term.