Is this relationship worth pursuing?
Dear Positive Way: A guy friend of mine and I have known each other for a couple of years now. A mutual friend set us up about a year and a half ago, and we dated off and on for a long time. However, I would always hear from other people that he was interested in other girls, and at one point he told my best friend (who was dating his brother) that he’d “always loved her” (we weren’t dating at the time). I always get mad at him, and when I do, all he does is leave and
refuse to talk about it…in fact, usually after I yell at him we break up. Right now we’re good friends, and he’s been there for me through some really tough times. The trouble is, I’m still attracted to him, and I think he *might* be interested. I really do love him, although I’m not at all sure he feels that way about me. Is this relationship worth pursuing? Also, how can I make some positive changes between us, and convince him that it’s ok to fight now and then? signed, Sylvia, age 18
Dear Sylvia: Thank you for your email. I am not sure he is the guy for you. I think you should continue the friendship and not pursue anything else at this time. Men in general do not like to fight and will do anything to avoid the person they are afraid will start a fight. Please read the information on our site on how to communicate in a more positive way and then practice some of the techniques. I wish you all the best.
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