I want my boyfriend back!
Dear Positive Way:
My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago and we had been dating for 6 months, well I was just starting to get over him and then all of a sudden he calls me and I go over to his house as we were right back where we had left off, and I felt very strongly about it and bought him a dozen roses and a cute little teddy bear and gave him a card also. Well, now all of a sudden he doesn’t call me or want to spend time together any more and I don’t want to lose him again. What should I do?? Thanks allot!! Signed Marybethage 18
Dear Marybeth: Thank you for your email. Wow, it’s been a real roller coaster for you with this boyfriend. I concerned that you even want him back with the way he’s been acting. Here are a few things I would like for you to consider.
1. You aren’t showing a lot of self-respect when you are ready and willing to take your boyfriend back after a break up. He is showing you through his actions that he is not the one for you. You deserve someone that will work at the relationship the way you are. It takes two committed individuals to make a relationship work. You can’t do it alone.
2. Start working on your self-esteem. If you haven’t already, please check out the articles we have on self-esteem development and practice some of the advice. If you felt better about yourself you wouldn’t allow this man to come in and out of your life so quickly. As you feel better and develop your self-esteem, you in turn will attract a higher quality person. One that will treat you very well and be committed to the relationship.
3. Most men need a challenge. They don’t want a girlfriend that will allow them to act like a jerk. He can’t show you respect when he feels you don’t show yourself respect. Set some boundaries for yourself and the way others treat you. Don’t allow yourself to be run over. You are in complete
control of how you feel and how you respond to others.
4. Marybeth, mourn your loss and then move on. You deserve much better. Let this guy go. Keep working on your self-love and you will attract the right person. I wish you all the best.
Please understand you have free will. This advice is given only in the realm of personal growth and self-help. This is not to be considered a substitute for therapy or professional counseling. We wish you well.