Am I healed yet from the hurt of a cheating husband and end of a marriage?
Dear Positive Way, my husband left after a 25 years marriage, he was cheating and left me for this woman. I would like to move on with the first boyfriend I ever had, his wife did the same to him. He loves me very much but I am hesitating to move on even though I love him. Why? He can offer me a good life together. I could never take my ex back, apparently this is not the first time he cheated. Am I not healed yet? Signed, Gem Gem, age 48
Dear Gem Gem, You may never be completely healed from the hurt that was caused in your first marriage. That doesn’t mean you can’t move on and have a good life with the man you are with now. Anytime we have been betrayed by the ones we love it hurts so deeply and those wounds take a very long time to heal. With that said a new love can help heal those wounds over time. Allow yourself time to enjoy your new love and don’t beat yourself up for still feeling pain and hurt over your past relationship. That is normal. If you get the chance please read our articles on Forgiveness, , Rebuilding after Divorce, Change and Grow, and Create a New Beginning. I think you will find the information helpful. Also if you are finding it difficult to heal and move forward don’t hesitate to seek professional counseling. They can help you along the way. Also there is a great book that we recommend
often to people trying to recover from Divorce. “Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends” by Bruce Fisher. We have included a direct link for the book below if you are interested in reading it.
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Please understand you have free will. This advice is given only in the realm of personal growth and self-help. This is not to be considered a substitute for therapy or professional counseling. We wish you well. |
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